Monday, September 19, 2011
I'm really pleased to tell you about the launch of The H Factor, the first ever awareness campaign from The Humanist Society of Scotland.
As a celebrant, whenever I meet people to discuss a ceremony and ask them why they've chosen a Humanist one, they always begin by saying. "Well, we're not religious but..." Then they go on to say how they stumbled across the HSS web site, looked at what Humanists believe and thought, "Oh - We had no idea that we've been Secret Humanists for years!"
All the research suggests that the majority of people in the UK are secular. Although we don't expect everyone with Humanist leanings to be card carrying Humanists we feel it is very important to raise awareness of a set of ethics guided by reason, compassion and equality.
And that's what the H Factor campaign is about. You can see my contribution here, where I'm talking about a subject I care very much about, same sex marriage:
From September 25th, a film crew will tour Scotland for five days in a search to find the stars of the first ever Humanist TV commercial. Auditions will be held in Edinburgh, Dundee, Aberdeen, Inverness and Glasgow, where members of the public will be asked to answer questions on major moral issues. Anyone can sign up at The H Factor web site, and individuals who appear in the final advert will receive a £500 appearance fee.
So what are you waiting for? Check it out, sign up, and who knows? You could be a star of the future!
Tuesday, August 16, 2011
Weddings conducted in the gallery of The Hub have to be done 'in the round', which I enjoy because it feels very friendly and I make a big effort to address the guests on either side of me. I also enjoyed this wedding very much because Jenny's brother is my favourite wedding musician, Pipe Major Roderick Deans, or Roddy the Piper as he's happy to be known. Roddy played a lovely and specially composed piece of music for his beautiful sister's entrance.
Isn't the photo above especially lovely? Here's what Jenny and Mooj thought about their wedding:
“So many of our guests have said how much they enjoyed the ceremony and how memorable it was, which has added even more to our enjoyment of the day. Being able to really put our personality into the ceremony, especially our vows, was brilliant. I don't think either of us really anticipated just how much we would enjoy the whole experience. Thanks once again for playing such a big part in our day and making it so special and memorable.”
Friday, June 10, 2011
This is a very romantic story of a wedding dress currently displayed in The Smithsonian:
"In August 1944, Hensinger, a B-29 pilot, and his crew were returning from a bombing raid over Yowata, Japan, when their engine caught fire. The crew was forced to bail out. Suffering from only minor injuries, Hensinger used the parachute as a pillow and blanket as he waited to be rescued. He kept the parachute that had saved his life. He later proposed to his girlfriend Ruth in 1947, offering her the material for a gown.
Ruth wanted to create a dress similar to one in the movie Gone with the Wind. She hired a local seamstress, Hilda Buck, to make the bodice and veil. Ruth made the skirt herself; she pulled up the strings on the parachute so that the dress would be shorter in the front and have a train in the back. The couple married July 19, 1947. The dress was also worn by the their daughter and by their son’s bride before being gifted to the Smithsonian."
It's especially touching when a person's personal experience is brought into their wedding. When a couple are planning their ceremony with me I encourage them to draw on their experience together as we express their hopes for the future. Some couples have faced tough times together so know they can rise to the mark when life takes a turn for the worst. Almost all couples live together for a substantial period of time before they marry so they've stood by each other despite seeing their partner at their least glamorous. Many couples have children before they marry so they've experienced romantic love and a whole new kind of love with each other.
Then there are other couples who have maybe not been together for long, had no testing situations with which to prove themselves, yet they still have experience to draw upon: courage to enter into a marriage without a long test period and a willingness to trust and nurture a growing love.
There's no getting out of the fact that we're all going to have difficult times in our lives but it's lovely to remind yourselves on your wedding day of how your past can contribute to the support you'll give one another in the future.
Friday, June 3, 2011
Saturday, May 7, 2011
I don't want you thinking I'm completely down on the royal wedding, as I'm all for some pretty frocks and pomp and ceremony as much as the next person. However I did get very fed up with the sycophantic media proclaiming this to be a 'modern marriage'. This conclusion was reached because Kate Middleton wasn't going to 'obey' her future husband.
Friday, April 1, 2011
I confess I'm not usually interested in what Ed Milliband has to say. However when I read this comment about his forthcoming marriage it really made me think: "At the end of the day we're in our 40s and we've got two kids, so it wasn't a case of me suddenly popping the question." Not exactly the most romantic of sentiments, Ed!
Thursday, February 3, 2011
1 I, Sophie, promise to love and cherish you, David, for the rest of your life.
I will try to bring laughter to your life and make you happy.
I will consider you in the decisions I have to make, and value your opinions.
Today I vow to be your wife for the rest of our lives.
1 Sophie, I join my life with yours today
Without hesitation and with an open and trusting heart.
Whatever we may encounter,
Let us encounter it together.
Take this ring and with it my commitment
To be the best Husband I can be.
Tuesday, January 18, 2011
I've blogged before about why weddings don't have to be expensive but thought I'd share a couple of recent discoveries that might be of interest if you're thinking of letting your creative side loose.
Thursday, January 13, 2011
Some recent wedding couples have remarked that they've already seen me doing weddings on YouTube and other sites. Like most people I find it quite cringeworthy watching myself on video and don't think most wedding videos can quite catch the atmosphere of the ceremony itself. However these are nice to watch and will give you some idea of how I conduct ceremonies. All my ceremonies are unique so these only represent the people getting married and not how I conduct every wedding.
Tuesday, January 11, 2011
I may be biased but I think Humanist weddings are simply wonderful. The opportunity to express your love for one another in a way that's personal and meaningful is incredibly special. However I do appreciate that Humanist weddings aren't right for everyone, so here's some questions you might like to consider before booking a celebrant.